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Impulsive or Intuitive?

by Katie on July 18, 2017

Every weekend my husband and I take a ridiculously long time deciding where we want to go for lunch. You’d think we were making some life altering decision.

Picking out paint colors gives me anxiety. And it took me forever to decide which shower curtain liner I wanted in the bathroom (Clear or white? Plastic or fabric? So many choices!).

Most of the time I can be pretty indecisive. And yet. When it comes to the big stuff. The really big life decisions, I somehow become incredibly clear-sighted.

Several years ago I was living in New York City and decided I wanted to live in South America. Four months later I was on a plane to Argentina.

Jeff and I were married in the first venue we visited. I knew it was the right place before we even got there.

After deciding we needed a second car, we bought the first car we took for a test drive. When we moved back to Southern California, we rented the first apartment we toured. And most recently, we just closed on a new home—after one day of in-person house hunting—in a new city we’d been to a handful of times.

Some may call this impulsive, or rushing into things.

But what if it was being intuitive instead? What if it was tapping into an inner guidance system. An inner voice that always knows the next right thing.

I am so guilty of always asking for other people’s advice and opinions. Often I wish someone would just tell me what to do. This can be helpful at times, but really only you know what is best for your own life. If you allow yourself to actually trust yourself, you often already have the answer.

Of course, I always do my homework before making a big decision. I research the heck out of a topic so I am prepared. This is where asking for people’s reviews and experiences can be really useful. I am ready and know exactly what I want when it’s time to sign on the dotted line.

But I also check in with my intuition. My gut feeling—there is either a sense of excitement which means go for it, or a sense of dread which means I should run for the hills. The butterflies in your stomach and expansiveness you feel when you’re making a big decision carry a lot of wisdom.

Even the experiences that didn’t go how I thought they would still taught me what I needed to learn. They may not have turned out the way I expected, but they led me to where I needed to be. And I wouldn’t change that.

Have you ever made a “rash” decision? Instead of it being considered impulsive, could you have been listening to your intuition instead?



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My Intentions for the New Year

by Katie on January 2, 2017

Happy 2017! For the last couple of years I have chosen to set intentions, rather than resolutions for the New Year. I prefer to have an overall focus for the year ahead rather than specific goals. For me, it provides deeper meaning and connection to what I really need.

And bonus, intentions don’t require a gym membership.

I don’t have a fancy way of figuring out my intentions for the New Year. I usually go with what speaks up the loudest. Often what shows up isn’t necessarily the easiest or most comfortable, but they are what is necessary.

So here goes. My Intentions for the New Year:

1. Trust and Faith

I am expecting my second baby any day now. I am excited and nervous. Overwhelmed and overjoyed. I really have no idea what it will be like with two little ones. Let alone two little ones under the age of two.

Thankfully I have many friends who have gone before me down this road. They provide support and inspiration as I also start this journey. Many tell me the first year can be challenging. Wonderful and full of joyful moments as well, but also exhausting and full of learning curves.

As I don’t know what to expect, I am relying a lot on trust and faith at this point. Trust that I will figure it out, that I will know what to do. Faith that I will take it one day (one moment) at a time.

2. Be Seen

This is a tough one for me. As a self-proclaimed introvert, it is much easier for me to stay hidden in the corner. I avoid conflict, I don’t like to make people uncomfortable, and I have a tendency toward people pleasing.

But, especially in these times, it is more important than ever to make my voice be heard. Share my point of view. Stand up for what I believe in and for those who may not have a voice. I want to be of service, and use my voice with love and purpose. I have to show up and be seen to do work that matters.

3. Self-Care

Ugh. To be honest, these two words kind of get on my nerves. Maybe because I’m the parent to a toddler, so the idea of self-care is quite laughable at the moment.

I know I should cook more and eat more leafy greens, but most of the time I eat standing up, or scarf down food in between running after my toddler who has ketchup and applesauce all over her face.

I know I need to meditate more (or at all). And journal. And be more reflective. But, it just doesn’t happen. I know I should exercise more, but it is hard to do yoga with a toddler crawling on your back.

And sleep? I can’t remember the last time I slept soundly through the night. And I’m about to have a newborn so you know how that goes.

But self-care is still important and for some reason is showing up in this New Year as something I need to focus on. Maybe my version of self-care will just look different.

Instead of meditating for an hour a day, I can shut my eyes and breathe for two minutes. Instead of cooking elaborate meals every day, I can decide to cook one new thing each week (or once a month…). Instead of going for an hour at the gym, I can go for a walk outside, or do 20 minutes of yoga while my toddler is watching Mickey Mouse Clubhouse on TV.

Instead of eight hours of glorious uninterrupted sleep, maybe it means going to bed just a little bit earlier. Or taking a nap when I’m tempted to clean out my closet and do the laundry. Maybe it means saying no to social obligations or commitments that don’t really serve me. And getting more comfortable with asking for help when I’m overwhelmed.

Self-care can evolve, and is still worth pursuing even while caregiving. In fact, it is even more essential.

Now, over to you: What are your intentions for the New Year? Wishing you a happy, healthy, prosperous, and fun-filled 2017!



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