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We’re in this for the long haul

by Katie on October 23, 2017

I was living in New York City when they enacted the smoking ban in bars and restaurants in 2003. I thought there was no way it would work. Cigarettes were everywhere, the city would revolt. I was working in restaurants at the time and assumed it would hurt business.

Thankfully I was wrong, and I appreciated leaving work every night without smelling like an ash tray.

After giving birth to my older sister, my Mom – still in the hospital bed – was offered a cigarette by the nurse in the delivery room. That was 1977.

Nowadays, I work for a Medical Center, and the entire hospital is a smoke-free zone. You can’t even smoke outside of the hospital.

Smoking bans are now so commonplace, my kids won’t even know what it’s like to be asked if you want the smoking or non-smoking section.

Taking on the tobacco lobby was certainly no small feat. Talk about a powerful goliath. But with time and dogged persistence, things began to change.

It is an important reminder for us all – we’re in this for the long haul. This is a marathon. Thankfully the abolitionists, the suffragettes, the civil rights leaders, the gay rights activists, didn’t choose complacency over action when they saw injustice in the world.

They were facing their own powerful goliaths. But they persisted and things eventually began to change.

It’s easy to forget how unpopular these movements were at the time. These figures have since become our heroes, but they weren’t always so revered. It took immense courage for these visionaries to not only see the injustice, but to do something about it.

The work we do now may be paving the way for the next generation. Or the one after that.

So here’s the question: What breaks your heart? What issues speak to your soul the most?

Whatever breaks your heart into pieces. Whatever gets you so mad you want to yell at your computer or tv set. Wherever you think things need to change. Follow that. We need you for the long haul.

This is a marathon. Put on your running shoes.



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Impulsive or Intuitive?

by Katie on July 18, 2017

Every weekend my husband and I take a ridiculously long time deciding where we want to go for lunch. You’d think we were making some life altering decision.

Picking out paint colors gives me anxiety. And it took me forever to decide which shower curtain liner I wanted in the bathroom (Clear or white? Plastic or fabric? So many choices!).

Most of the time I can be pretty indecisive. And yet. When it comes to the big stuff. The really big life decisions, I somehow become incredibly clear-sighted.

Several years ago I was living in New York City and decided I wanted to live in South America. Four months later I was on a plane to Argentina.

Jeff and I were married in the first venue we visited. I knew it was the right place before we even got there.

After deciding we needed a second car, we bought the first car we took for a test drive. When we moved back to Southern California, we rented the first apartment we toured. And most recently, we just closed on a new home—after one day of in-person house hunting—in a new city we’d been to a handful of times.

Some may call this impulsive, or rushing into things.

But what if it was being intuitive instead? What if it was tapping into an inner guidance system. An inner voice that always knows the next right thing.

I am so guilty of always asking for other people’s advice and opinions. Often I wish someone would just tell me what to do. This can be helpful at times, but really only you know what is best for your own life. If you allow yourself to actually trust yourself, you often already have the answer.

Of course, I always do my homework before making a big decision. I research the heck out of a topic so I am prepared. This is where asking for people’s reviews and experiences can be really useful. I am ready and know exactly what I want when it’s time to sign on the dotted line.

But I also check in with my intuition. My gut feeling—there is either a sense of excitement which means go for it, or a sense of dread which means I should run for the hills. The butterflies in your stomach and expansiveness you feel when you’re making a big decision carry a lot of wisdom.

Even the experiences that didn’t go how I thought they would still taught me what I needed to learn. They may not have turned out the way I expected, but they led me to where I needed to be. And I wouldn’t change that.

Have you ever made a “rash” decision? Instead of it being considered impulsive, could you have been listening to your intuition instead?



My Intentions for the New Year

January 2, 2017
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Happy 2017! For the last couple of years I have chosen to set intentions, rather than resolutions for the New Year. I prefer to have an overall focus for the year ahead rather than specific goals. For me, it provides deeper meaning and connection to what I really need. And bonus, intentions don’t require a […]

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Why I don’t weigh myself anymore

December 13, 2016
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I once had a total breakdown while trying on dresses in a Macy’s dressing room. Let me back up a bit. I was a pretty chubby kid. My weight fluctuated through the years, but overall, I always felt bigger than the other girls. I wasn’t particularly comfortable in my body. As a kid I wore […]

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Why we need your Light more than ever now

November 9, 2016
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I had a completely different blog post planned for this week. I thought I would be writing a post to celebrate the election of our first Woman President of the United States. I was sure of it. I had planned to write about our tremendous progress as a country, about how excited I was for […]

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What do you do with an old prom dress?

October 10, 2016
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A few weeks ago I was at my parent’s house helping them prep for an upcoming garage sale. I was going through stuff in my old bedroom, looking for items that could be given away. Since I’ve moved around a lot post high school, and since Jeff and I currently don’t have a ton of […]

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Why it took me 14 months to write again

September 13, 2016
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It’s been over 14 months since my last blog post. I didn’t mean for this to happen. I had intended to keep writing. Every month my Google reminder would pop up to remind me that my blog post was due. And each month I basically hit the snooze button and figured I would start writing […]

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My moratorium on feeling guilty

July 23, 2015
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I’m a new mom. Which means my tendency to feel guilty just raised threefold in the last few months. Why are women, and especially mothers, such experts at feeling guilty all of the time? There is always something to feel guilty about. Too much tv. Not enough interaction. Too much interaction. Not enough independence. Too […]

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How flying with an infant restored my faith in humanity

June 17, 2015
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Normally when traveling by plane, I am the type of person who doesn’t want to talk to anyone. I stare straight ahead, and as soon as I get in my seat, I put in my headphones or open up my book. I am polite and kind to the people I encounter along the way, but […]

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My evolving relationship with commitment

February 25, 2015
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I have been at my current job over three years. That is the longest job I’ve ever had. I’ve also lived in my apartment more than three years. As an adult, this is the longest home I’ve ever lived in. I’m also married. The longest relationship I’ve ever had. You could say I have a […]

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