Happy New Year

My One Intention for the New Year

by Katie on December 27, 2017

Ok, it’s New Year’s resolution time. In recent years, I’ve preferred to set intentions for the New Year instead of resolutions. In my experience, intentions have been more powerful and sustaining.

But all this talk of resolutions reminds me of the things I would like to change in my own life. So let’s just pretend I was setting a New Year’s resolutions list. This is what it would look like:

  1. Asleep by 10pm. Awake at 6am. Early morning workout.
  2. Stop eating meat. Or at least make sure those animal products were humanely raised. Green juice every morning.
  3. Only healthy foods for my kids. Green vegetables at every meal.
  4. Declutter. Declutter. Declutter. Tap into my inner minimalist.
  5. Read at least one book per month.
  6. Stop looking at my phone before bed. In fact, don’t even let my phone in the bedroom. Stop looking at Twitter.
  7. Write more!
  8. Finish that training program(s) I purchased a year ago.

This is what the reality looks like:

I average about six hours of sleep per night. I hardly workout anymore. I often fall asleep with my cell phone instead of with a good book. And I have too many reusable bags to know what to do with. My kid eats a lot of chicken nuggets because…sometimes it’s just easier…and I’m tired (see above re: six hours of sleep per night).

I would love to say I could keep all of those resolutions listed above for the New Year. But, let’s be real…

So here’s my conclusion. After sorting through all the muck of how I wish I acted differently, how I wish I could be more disciplined with my time and daily habits, I consolidated it all into one important intention for the New Year:

Release the judgement on others and myself.

That’s it. Release the judgement from the unmet expectations I have of others. And release the judgment from the unmet expectations I have of myself.

This is really hard work. Like, put my head under the pillow and hide kind of work. Which is exactly why this is my intention for the New Year. My resistance to it tells me it’s precisely what I need right now.

Doing this work doesn’t mean I’ll never have a judgmental thought about myself or another person. That’s near impossible.

But my intention is to become more aware of those judgmental thoughts. And to be able to release them when they arise, while replacing them with thoughts of love, compassion, understanding and connection.

So yeah, I would like to exercise and sleep more. I have too many unread books, and my kids eat way too much packaged food. Feeling guilty or judging myself about all of those things doesn’t make them better or different.

So I accept what is, love myself though it anyway, and make changes motivated by loving intentions.

Wishing you a very Happy 2018. Here’s to a new year filled with love, light, courage, adventure, laughter, and connection.

With much love,


Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash


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We’re in this for the long haul

by Katie on October 23, 2017

I was living in New York City when they enacted the smoking ban in bars and restaurants in 2003. I thought there was no way it would work. Cigarettes were everywhere, the city would revolt. I was working in restaurants at the time and assumed it would hurt business.

Thankfully I was wrong, and I appreciated leaving work every night without smelling like an ash tray.

After giving birth to my older sister, my Mom – still in the hospital bed – was offered a cigarette by the nurse in the delivery room. That was 1977.

Nowadays, I work for a Medical Center, and the entire hospital is a smoke-free zone. You can’t even smoke outside of the hospital.

Smoking bans are now so commonplace, my kids won’t even know what it’s like to be asked if you want the smoking or non-smoking section.

Taking on the tobacco lobby was certainly no small feat. Talk about a powerful goliath. But with time and dogged persistence, things began to change.

It is an important reminder for us all – we’re in this for the long haul. This is a marathon. Thankfully the abolitionists, the suffragettes, the civil rights leaders, the gay rights activists, didn’t choose complacency over action when they saw injustice in the world.

They were facing their own powerful goliaths. But they persisted and things eventually began to change.

It’s easy to forget how unpopular these movements were at the time. These figures have since become our heroes, but they weren’t always so revered. It took immense courage for these visionaries to not only see the injustice, but to do something about it.

The work we do now may be paving the way for the next generation. Or the one after that.

So here’s the question: What breaks your heart? What issues speak to your soul the most?

Whatever breaks your heart into pieces. Whatever gets you so mad you want to yell at your computer or tv set. Wherever you think things need to change. Follow that. We need you for the long haul.

This is a marathon. Put on your running shoes.



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